Are you an attention whore? I might be and you might be one too. Maybe you think that to be an attention whore you need to be an extrovert but from my experiences I believe you can be a total introvert and still some part of your brain is craving to be seen. Wearing micro swimsuits in public is going to get you noticed, people are going to look and people are going to stare. You may not believe you are the type to crave and lust for attention but then again you might be craving it on a non-conscious level. When I first starting wearing micro swimsuits, I did it because I enjoyed the feel of the spandex, the idea that I could wear the tiny sexy suits that the girls were wearing but ones made for my body. Over time I think one comes to enjoy the attention from girls and guys checking you out. It is a type of high.
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As an introvert, I don’t really think I am looking for attention at the beach. When I found out my now-wife prefers a swim brief to shorts, I accepted the idea as I came around to her way of thinking. I knew she appreciated it and I was not doing it for anyone else. We looked more balanced together, unlike shorts versus bikini. I guess it also meant that I was giving all the other the girls an opportunity to appreciate my choice over baggy shorts by being in something of similar modesty to their bikinis or well-fitted one-piece costumes, and may encourage other guys to be a little more bold, but it also meant not waiting forever for baggy shorts to dry out after a swim, and a better tan. The minimalist approach appeals to me. These days when I arrive at the beach, I tend to just have a shirt over my swimsuit, towel and a hat. I don’t take any glasses (even though I am short-sighted) and not even footwear if I think my feet are up to the challenge of where I am. Sometimes, less is more.
When I started looking for briefer suits it was also for my wife’s benefit, but I liked the sleeker look better than a basic brief with 3″ sides, as did she. Even if she was concerned some were getting too brief, I’m sure she still liked the look. The need for me to take care of some hair was fine, as were the less modest tan lines. The feeling of swimming in a thong or string is also nice, with the currents reaching where they may not always get to. The suits always cover the essentials up front, even if some are only just.
When I went for bright colours, it was just the happy vibe. Like the suits I find for my wife.
When I started getting unlined suits, it was for the additional speed of drying, especially as I prefer to dry by going for a walk along the shore and keep my towel dry for lying on later. If, as they dried, they left a little less to the imagination because of the lack of lining, then so be it.
When I started getting thinner material it was also for the quick-dry aspect. They may be slightly transparent as a result, especially when wet, but I am sure no one notices. (Or am I just assuming their eyesight is no better than mine?)
When I tried a red fishnet men’s g-string, that my wife had bought for me from Fredericks of Hollywood on a US work trip, as a joke swimsuit, I was especially impressed with how it felt in the surf. The combination of support and openness was mind-blowing as the waves crashed over me. Although our section of the beach was very quiet as I entered the ocean, the ladies that soon walked past may have seen what I was wearing as the crashing waves prevented me from going too deep into the water as they alternately went over my head and withdrew to my knees.
When I went for designs with thinner side straps, a more shapely pouch or using subtle enhancements like rings it was only about enhancing the presentation, nothing to do with being an extrovert. When I am choosing which suit to wear for a particular visit to the beach and deciding on the basis of what I can get away with, it’s just a little fun. When packing for a trip means invariably taking more suits than I will ever need, struggling to close the case and hoping to get to wear as many as possible, it is because they are too good to leave behind
I still don’t know if or how much anybody stares especially since, without glasses, it’s hard to check what they’re looking at from a safe distance. Perhaps I don’t go unnoticed.
I think I got a little attention today, even if, paradoxically, I did blend in more than usual. Down under, Melbourne has had a few more beach-worthy days as winter approaches. I just had to have a long lunch and take advantage of this opportunity.
The choice of suit was a Koala Ripped (https://www.koalaswim.com/Ripped_p_356.html), nice and sleek but relatively conservative as far as Koala goes. One to wear anywhere, with the small surprise of metal rings on the hips to break up the 3/4″ sides.
However, I decided to go further afield today in my choice of beach. Sunnyside beach was a place I’d never been before, but I decided it was now or never to try the official clothing-optional area.
Once I reached the sand, I took off my shirt and carried it with my towel, just wearing my Koala suit as I walked to the designated area. Sure enough, I was not the only one with a mind to take advantage of the weather. With my short-sightedness and not wanting to stare, I was able to observe that the crowd was mostly male of all ages: some alone, some with company. (I only noticed a few females later, generally with partners.) Apart from me, still in my Koala as I acquainted myself with the scene, and a few who looked like they were just walking through the area without stopping, everyone was taking full advantage of the sun. I walked the length of the section (less than half a mile) before I turned around and found a spot to put down my stuff (about 10 yards unoccupied on either side), which included my Koala.
I first enjoyed a swim before going for my usual drying-off walk, followed by about an hour of sun. The water has cooled a bit with summer ending, but the waves made up for it by distracting from the cold. Perhaps the water was a little warmer than yesterday at my normal spot, and it’s always nice to swim naked. The sun and breeze meant I dried off even quicker on my walk along the shore than if I had my suit on, while lying out in the sun was just nice. When the time came to leave, I walked wit everything under my arm as far as the sign before putting on my Koala and my shirt for the last section to the carpark.
As far as drawing attention, I was certain I was, and there is an interesting contrast. I am used to being the guy with the skimpiest suit at any beach I go to, even if the cut is only half rear and 1/2″ sides (it generally has to be very quiet before I go briefer, although sometimes I do anyway 🙂 ) and I cannot recall ever seeing anther guy in a thong (there might be one or two females), so the attention I’m getting is likely because of my choice of suit. The guys are probably wondering how I have the courage and the girls probably are just surprised. I generally don’t look for a reaction, but whenever the question gets asked of Australian females, I am always surprised at the number who don’t actually appreciate a male in a brief suit. Cultural conditioning, I reckon.
Going without a suit, but where virtually everyone else is the same, means the novelty of choice of suit is nonexistent. The only thing left is the checking-out. So I was less remarkable, but still getting checked out. It certainly felt more obvious, but, I guess, less judgemental. The decision to stick with your choice, not worry and just enjoy the experience is the best. But then, that also goes for the regular beaches anyhow.
Okay, one more thought. Women’s opinions on men wearing brief swimsuits from Australia in 1977: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Px7QJ8j1e0
My feeling is that the range of female opinions are about the same, while the male opinions have become more conservative.
Me? I reckon that suit could have had a little less coverage in the rear, but then, mine already do. 🙂 No one’s ever commented either way, but perhaps they are being polite.